10 Good Things About Frankie

1. Frankie had beautiful blue eyes
2. Frankie had elegance and grace
3. Frankie talked but she didn't squawk
4. Frankie always came running when I got home (except when I got home from Spain and then she let me worry)
5. Frankie always slept with me until I fell asleep.
6. Frankie was good with children.
7. Frankie traveled well.
8. Frankie kept me safe from cockroaches, mice and other cats.
9. Frankie let me snuggle with her whenever I wanted or needed.
10. Frankie was a good cat.

(yes, the idea was stolen from the book The Tenth Good Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst that my sister just sent me)

Wheeeee! It's a Dating Spree!

So far I have gone out with 4 different men. This online thing is very time intensive. This last week I have slacked off the actual on line bit. Granted the dates are taking up time. None of the dates have been bad, they have all been enjoyable. I just haven't been bowled over by anyone and I don't know if I "should" be bowled over (being knocked down doesn't sound fun).

Things I have discovered about myself...
There is a part of me that wants to be swept of my feet (granted, if that were to happen, I don't know if I would trust it - I would want to...)
I don't like it when men lie about their height.
I am disconcerted when my apartment would fit into their kitchen (not that I don't deserve a huge kitchen), but it is odd.
I don't want to invite anyone into my apartment at this point - partly because it is my space and partly because I haven't told them what kind of dance I teach (I dance around that fact).
I have to remind myself that men are tender souls and probably more insecure than I and yet, I don't have to be "nice" or accommodating (don't worry, I am always polite and friendly).
I am enjoying the process.
I need fun and I need financially responsible.
And I need at least taller than me, preferably taller than me in heels, but short by itself won't knock him out of the running.
I like it much better if they don't try to make out on the first date.

That is the spree at this point. I have another date Sunday with the man I went out with last night (which was fun and comfortable) and I am in phone communication with one other man. I suppose I'd better get back on line.

Frankie and her fabulous life

Text is coming tomorrow. (and probably more pictures).

quick update more coming tomorrow...

Tomorrow I will be writing about Frankie and her fabulous life and I will write about my dating spree AND I will write about a change of outlook.

Hats and Martyrs

Sometimes it takes looking from someone else's viewpoint to see how mired you are in something. Months ago, whenever the World Cup was, I was crushed by this man who is leaving for Germany. He had no idea he crushed me, but I was crushed. That week, I had a massage from my friend Rie, the goddess of bodyworkers, and I told her of my broken heart. Then, a few weeks later, when all my employment issues were going on and I had contacted him for advice, she and I went out to dinner and during he called to check in and make sure I was okay. Last she had heard was he'd broken my heart and now we were talking, hmmm. Then, this last tuesday, she had just gotten back from her incredible adventure and I was sitting in the lobby of the studio knitting and she asked who the hat was for. And of course it is for him for Germany. Granted it is a color that looks good on me if I choose not to give it to him. All of a sudden, I realized how I seemed to someone else - rather ewwww. And I was glad it actually felt over. Granted, I may not let it be completely over until he is on that plane. But I realize that is my choice and my delusion.

And on a happy note, I have 2 dates this next week with men from eharmony. (the timing seems perfect)

when your playlist makes you laugh

Went for a walk this morning on the beach. Was breathing into my heart as the song Ready for Love by India.Arie came on. I thought to myself "well, perfect song." Then I ran into the man I have been seeing on and off for 4 years (I haven't spent any time with him since before April) and is moving to Germany this month. He was walking with his mom. We talked for a moment and I walked on. The next song to come on Scrood By U by Lords of Acid, which made me laugh as the lyrics are how in some ways I feel about him. Then as I turned around and crossed his path again Let's Get It On by good ole Marvin Gaye was playing. Then on my way back to my apartment was Ooh La La with Goldfrapp singing about being made for love. And then my favorite Song of the Siren by This Mortal Coil. And the whole time I kept remembering to breath into my heart. And I realized that his moving away creates more space for me to love and fall in love. And as I walked into my building I revolutionary thought (for me) that I love him, but I am not in love with him anymore.

Just an interesting side note, I named my new Ipod "Soundtrack to my Adventure."

Yes, I am a geek

My thoughts after watching the first half of Ugly Betty last week...

Did you watch ugly betty? I couldn't even make myself stay awake to watch it all. The writing has gone downhill. Unless the whole first half was set up for the rest. Like back to the future 2 was just set up for 3.

Now after watching the second half, I realize the first half was just set up. But really, that much set up?

I will give it another chance, but we'll see.

On other tv related thoughts...I am so so glad that Life is back on the air. And we get two episodes this week. Mondays and tomorrow nights. Oooh...