Spoke Too Soon

Once again, I spoke too soon.
Got out of yoga today and had a message from the man I like - seemed like a good thing. I was excited. He wanted to let me know (rather than just not calling) that he didn't see our relationship going anywhere. He was taking this eharmony thing very seriously and was looking for a serious relationship and he didn't see us having that.
You can't argue with his feelings, so I didn't. My little heart felt a bit bruised and battered. I wonder what it is I lack or have too much of that he wouldn't want a "serious" relationship with me. But... as a friend of mine pointed out, perhaps I just dodged a bullet.
Thank goodness I was going slowly.
The good thing is I seem to be attracting people that are closer and closer to what it is I want. As Mama Gena would say - he's driftwood. It means I am getting closer to shore. I just wish I could see the damn shoreline.

My Musings on Dating

1. I actually like someone
2. I am trying not to jump 5 steps ahead of where we are in the moment
3. I am going slowly (so far so good)
4. I seem to be what is getting in the way by over analyzing
5. I need to keep dating other people partially so as not to obsess
6. I woke up the morning of our third date excited that I would get to kiss him that day
7. I need to keep dating other people so as not to obsess
8. I really want to enjoy this process
9. I realize I don't think I really know how to date, I tend to jump in and be "in a relationship" sometimes before I know if I really like them

Just got home from a date and I wonder...

I wonder... It was a third date. I kissed him after he walked me to the car. and no "ooh!" no socks rolling up and down. When we talked I wondered what he was passionate about (granted I didn't think of asking that straight out until later, I had asked what he enjoys doing for fun). He seems great and caring and intelligent, but not really opinionated or excited. Maybe it is because he still seems a bit nervous around me, but I don't know. If I'd felt something during the kiss it would have helped. But nothin'. arrgh...

dating

Does anyone other than me often judge their date as others would see them? I had a second date with someone yesterday - unfortunately I was pooped and I am not sure why. He is very nice and kind and thoughtful. I am wondering what else there is to him. I can't go too beige.
Today I had a first date with someone, who I don't know if I will see him again. He is very fit. But he made a joke of everything I said. I think he was trying to be witty. And when he spoke, he sometimes closed his eyes to think. It was just very stylized. Knowing that my family would have such fun mocking him, I just don't know if I should go on a second date. But maybe, just maybe when he relaxes he is less stylized.